Role modeling and harvesting the good seeds for the future…..
After an interview with a young man at the ranch, which is featured in a previous blog, I realized something that struck my heart……
Often when mentors come to work with the kids at the ranch, they are wishing for the lightning bolt “aha” moment of learning that occurs in our kids because we were able to teach a new concept that connected the dots. You know, the earth shaking experience when your kiddo puts 1+1 together and boom, fireworks happen? Sometimes it happens, yes, but most of the time, their learning experiences need time to percolate. As a mentor, this can be so uneventful and disappointing at times because we want to see the earth shattering effect of what we are doing right now in that moment……but believe me, you are planting good seeds for the future. One thing I know for sure is this, kids watch and learn. If you place yourself in an environment where eyes are watching, you are always planting seeds. Let’s hope they are good ones.
The importance of role modeling and our children’s development is crucial. Social learning scientists have shown that much of the learning that occurs during as child’s development is acquired through observation and imitation. We would agree that children learn from role models that they look up to. Whether we are a parent, teacher, friend or favorite relative, you are influencing someone.
Whoa there, that’s a lot of pressure!
At the ranch, we have a lot of eyes upon us always! But just as in the scripture, Luke 12:48 states, “to whom much is given, much is required.” You have heard me say before, one of my favorite quotes is…. “Be the change, you wish to see in the world.” This doesn’t change the world overnight but it sure does start with you. You don’t need to be perfect, but your job is to lead by example if you wish for good change in the world. We need to take a closer look at how we are living our own lives.
Have you considered people are always watching and do you consider yourself a good role model? According to Dr. Suzanne Gelb, 10 ways we can plant positive seeds in our youth and those around us are to always present your best, take care of yourself, be dependable, check in with yourself, be loyal, be attentive, follow your instincts, fess up when you have done something wrong, enforce consequences and lastly, START NOW! Our kids are desperate and thirsting for boundaries and accountability but they need to be directed by those following the same rules.
This weekend Damian, one of the kids that have been a mentee at the ranch now for over two years, age 12, was asked how he might handle a junior leadership role at the ranch. His answers were sweet and sincere. It occurred to me during the interview that the way he would conduct himself as a leader to his peers at the ranch was direct modeling of how Chris and I conduct ourselves at the ranch; with positive support, prayer, and organization. What’s really cool about this, is, Damian is going to take what he has learned here at Reigning Grace Ranch and carry it everywhere he goes to be the best leader he can be. Two years of learning and percolating paid off and Damian had the “AHA!” So my friends and mentors, continue to plant the good seeds for the future, be the change you wish to see in the world. Examine yourself and check your heart. It starts one at a time.